Long distance relationship tips

It actually takes a special 'someone' to bring alive the magic of a long distance relationship. The frequently asked question is, "Will this work?" There's no single right answer for this googly. People have met and dated ignoring thousands of miles and emerged as soul mates. Cupid's arrow did strike them hard and fast. Something diametrically opposite has also occurred. READ MORE

People have met, carried on a relationship over thousands of miles and ended up 'retired hurt' and heartbroken. Although there are innumerous hardships associated with this kind of relationship, those who can thrive in a long distance relationship can discover strengths in the midst of hardships, too.

True, you don't get to have your sweetheart beside you, you don't have a shoulder to lean on. But what long distance relationships do provide you cannot be counted out too. People get to enjoy a lasting relationship on the wings of mutual trust and the urge to know the persons for who they are, not what they act like. Though it is crucial to get a  firsthand feel of a person's behavioural pattern, the edge of the relationship comes in the effort invested to explore your love all by yourself. Conversations over the phone, those emails, voice and video chats add on the romantic flavour. And the many cute things you can do to make the relationship work.

One positive aspect about having a long-distance affair is, it complements your lifestyle well. If you are the kind of person who is too busy to devote time to a full-fledged relationship but still looking forward to grow in love, then long-distance may be cut out just for you. Most people want to erase the boundaries and bridge the gap that exists between them in a long distance relationship. That's the best thing that can happen! Two people connected through the magic called "Love" giving a toss to the "hundred miles" between them. How romantic!

For all you hearts bound by the strings of long distance, here are some immaculate ways to know if your relationship is "real" and alive and ticking the right way:

• First, depending on how the relationship bloomed, you have to take a judgment call how you intend    to carry it on. For the sake of geographical boundaries, email or SMS might be your only hope to get connected. Also, depending on how long you've been together it is always a good indication if your soul-mate keeps in touch with you regularly. the distance factor might hold you from meeting each other everyday, talking frequently at least shows that the person really cares. When the 'love thing' steps into play, you will probably be dying to phone your special friend everyday.
  
  
• Second, is the person there with you as much as possible when you need that support? Brainstorm as to how much is "as much" for you given the existing barrier. Again, depending on how serious the relationship is, you can expect your love to get in touch with you if a crisis crops up. If you are aware about his or her schedule, you know exactly when to get back to you should a problem arise. This is a tricky calculation though. Sometimes excuses are for real and a grain of suspicion and insecurity can strangulate the relationship.
  
  
• Third, if you are seriously dating, discuss and frame your long distance relationship ground rules. "Understand" is the foundation. No matter how you two are nested across the globe if the foundation is weak, love flies out of the window soon. "Mutual respect" is again a watch word. If you fail to respect, you have failed yourself.

If you're in the relationship, here are some cute ways to keep it going!

• E-cards - make use of these free cards with sweet messages. They won't cost you a 'Moon'. They are in every sense priceless. They speak out the language of your heart to express your feelings.
  
  
•  Gifts for her/him - A gift can utter unspoken words. Who doesn't love o receive gifts from the near and dear ones?
  
  
• Mailers - A surefire way to keep in touch. Include jokes, cards, touchy messages, personalized mails professing how much you love and care etc. Everyone desires to see such romantic mails in the morning, and so will your sweetheart!
  
  
• Surprise calls - So you know he or she isn't home and you really want to chat? Utilize the answering machine to leave a pleasant surprise when he or she gets home.

With these tips let your dedication and spark. Nurture your long distance relationship so that it incenses the two of you with the aroma of love...even across the many miles!